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emotionally prepared for marriage
Not many women realise that getting engaged is one of the most significant psychological transitions in their life. An engaged woman must fight with many different emotions often conflicting, while still having to get on with the planning of the big day. As someone facing a decision that will change their lives forever, time should be set aside for you to understand and to comprehend what marriage means and if forever is what you want!
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No matter how much in love you are with your partner, you are bound to have feelings you didn’t expect including fear, anxiety, sadness and loss. It is these important internal details, so largely ignored by typical wedding guides and planners, that an engaged woman must face and confront if she ever hopes to walk down the aisle totally prepared for a healthy marriage.
Feelings of loss?
Marrying someone is the only time in your life you are truly giving up one identity for another. Its not just about taking a new last name, a literal change of identity and a decision that brings its own questions and anxieties. You are no longer the ‘single woman’, or ‘child’, which are two very symbolic identities in themselves. You may question yourself and worry that you’re ‘losing your youth’, or feel that you will be ‘unable to relate to your single friends’. A stage in your life, the only stage you have ever experienced, is ending, and many women experience feelings of loss as one door closes and another opens.
What if…
As one chapter of your life closes, another begins. A chapter of commitment and togetherness. This is sure to bring excitement and joy, but fear and uncertainty all at the same time. You are entering into a partnership with another human being, which means your future’s happiness relys heavily on the actions of another. This question of “Can this man make me happy?” can expose feelings of fear. So many questions are brought to the forefront of your mind like, “What if our marriage doesn’t last? What if the passion fades and we grow apart? What if something happens to him?”. These questions can be brought up by even the most joyous and loved up brides. |
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